“The best way to make children good is to make them happy”
In addition to food, clothing, and a roof over your head, the most important thing in a child’s life is emotional security. If a child has enough emotional connections in the first years of life, then he grows up psychologically healthy. What does a child need? Safety and confidence that he is loved.
Emotional stress is a state of a pronounced psychoemotional experience by a person of conflict life situations, which sharply or for a long time limit the satisfaction of his social or biological needs.
What factors cause stressful situations in children:
– lesions of the central nervous system, craniocerebral trauma;
– impaired mental function;
– somatic diseases.
– emotional sensitivity.
– violation of adaptation to the children’s team;
– unfavorable microclimate in the family, conditions for raising a child.
Situations can have a traumatic effect:
1. Associated with the loss or lack of a sense of security (cruelty or emotional rejection in the family, divorce, overprotection, the appearance of a new family member, linguistic or cultural isolation of the family).
2. Causing vulnerability due to separation from the family (going to kindergarten, hospitalization).
Preschool children may develop depressive symptoms. A child, having lost existing well-being or having lost an object of love, may experience feelings of helplessness and passive humility.
Among the somatic symptoms of stress are:
– eating disorders, intestinal colic, weight loss, enuresis, encopresis, headaches, tics, etc.
– behavioral disorders replacing mood disorders (refusal to participate in live emotional games, difficulty concentrating in the course of classes, deterioration in the assimilation of knowledge, the desire for solitude or, conversely, in search of support, unwillingness to leave the society of an adult, easy entry into quarrels, auto-aggression, the appearance of such bad habits as sucking fingers, biting off nails, etc.).
In preschool children, irritability, tearfulness, affective outbursts, apathy, fears, as well as intellectual and speech development disorders are observed.
Recommendations for parents and educators
1. Teach children to find adequate, moral values-oriented ways of interacting with the world around them.
2. Create situations of success with which the child can believe in himself.
3. Give the feasible child tasks, without requiring him to complete an assignment that is too difficult for him.
4. Set real and definite goals for the child (it is better to study, follow the rules of behavior, do homework on time, etc.)
5. Let your child be independent.
6. Play with your child: play methods of working with objects, toys form a closer emotional contact.
7. Apply psychotherapeutic methods: fairy tale therapy, sand therapy, art therapy.
8. Remember that tactile contact as an element of bodily therapy contributes to the improvement of the child’s well-being: hug, stroke, soothe, etc.
9. Take care of the child’s physical and mental health. If necessary, contact a specialist: pediatrician, psychotherapist, psychologist.
10. Remember that coping with stress is a prerequisite for a child’s mental well-being.